Monday, August 14, 2006

Just wondering...

How many of you are in a relationship before you ended secondary schooling? (Meaning you are aged between 13-17)

How many breakups did you go through?

How many times did you say "I like you. Will you be my boyfriend/girlfriend?"

How many times did you feel because the person you like did not like you in return?

How many times you cried because your bf/gf just broke up with you? And just how many stayed as friends after you broke up?

How long would it last if you start early?

Is it puppy love or true love?

How do you distinguish between that?

Same questions, different answers.
Same experiences, different outcomes.

I'm just really wondering about relationships. Nah, never had a bf before. EXCUSE ME. *ahem* Guys think that I should act more girly.

I was 13 (very innocent!) when my friends start having interests in guys as in having relationships. Actually started in Primary but yet, the guys were still shy and it's a no-no for girl-boy thing to start. Yes, you can confess your liking and "go out" with the guy (in school with 20 pairs of eyes looking at you guys "confessing" to each other) but not in the real dating world yet.

I used to remember about my friends in Primary school. Most of them stayed on to study in the same secondary school and we managed to meet up last year. How I remembered this girl who was already tall and pretty liked a guy. Both are from my class. Actually it was funny that how we would like our classmates more than our schoolmates. It was the best class, very competitive and even liking someone means that the girl or guy is as clever as you (= same class) >_<"

She went out with him for a week. Seriously. Dating in school. It was post UPSR (Primary 6 public examination which determined you to get into the best schools or if not best class) time so the teacher does not even come to class. We just had to hang around because kononnya, those students not in school are "bad" ones and also to prevent us from lepak-ing in school. *duh* What we usually do in that time is to confess your "love" because some of us would continue in the already tetap-ed secondary school or others, change schools because SMK Datuk Patinggi Haji Abdul Gapor, Stampin is obviously does not sound as good as SMK Green Road or SMK Kuching High. One and only chance to talk to your crush and tell him that you liked him. Well, this girl, S, is a pretty and popular one in my class. Very smart and witty. She's that kind of girl that dares to confess (unlike me who is to scardy cat to do so) and this guy, D, is the class clown. He's a pretty cool guy. Kinda cute in his very scrawny way.

He decided to give her a chance. They talk... Talk and talk. No matter how hard we tried to eavesdrop, I've no idea what they are talking about. They talked for the full 5 days of school and then no more. So they "broke up". Not bad, for 12-year-olds.

Then in secondary school. My best friend (C) decided that the guy in class (W) is for her. "Sexy eyes" she told me. Chased him. How? A teacher was not in school, no subsitute teacher. So we wandered round. She confessed outside on the balcony. I saw it from another block. 4 stories high. Oh my gosh. She broke up with him 2 years later and got a new bf soon enough BUT the new guy was actually more interested in flirting round. Broke up after 3 weeks. Then she had a new one (whom I never saw...) and was in an on-off relationship. Broke up numerous times. Called him a "wood head". Hahahhaa... Once she went back to him cz he said "I love you". Man, she still broke up with him half a year later. Then last year I called her and she told me she's back with W. Asked her 6 months later, she broke up with him. When I went back, she told me that the guy had feelings for another friend of ours (which was one of the reasons she dumped him in Form 3 cz she didn't managed to convince him that he was dumped in Form 2) and broke up again. So far, in Upper 6, no news...

Another good friend (E) actually went out with a samseng kia. Those bad boys type of guy. She's the sweetest girl you know and the nicest one. Duh. The bf is the opposite. However there's a really cute guy in his gang... *drools* Nvm. She really is the best gf you can get. She took care of him, forced me to ride a bike to her house so she could borrow my bike to ride to his house so that she could give him the scientific calculator which he needed for his Form 5 exam. It was funny how she went to him more rather than he coming to us but true is that she's from the top classes and he's in the bottom classes. She secretly went out with him on dates (her dad's REAL scary) and buys him stuffs on anniversaries and birthdays. I never expected them to break up after going out for 3 years but yeah, he did broke up with her. I think she broke up with him. She was real depressed in the next 4 months. Worst thing, he had a new gf after they broke up one month and being the sweet girl, she even talked to the new gf WHICH was WRONG cz the girl started rumours that E is trying to rampas her bf back, try to make him go back to her and accused her of being a fox. What E was trying to do was to be friends as she knew the girl even when she was still dating the guy. Later, E told me that actually her bf had another gf which he conveniently labelled as one of his friends' cousin. Did he think that she was that thick? 30 txt messages from the "cousin" and she got hold of the number and started txting the girl whom she made friends with and also managed to catch the so-called bf of the two. She told me that it was not the first time. She trusted him, gave him space, do not question his goings and yet he violated all of that.

All I know is that she stayed single after that, knowing in her mind that God will prepare for her and that guy? Broke up with the girl or the girl dumped him after a year. She went for this guy who was singing on national tv and last I heard, she broke up with that guy too.

A friend told me that to leave the best for the first. I was desperate for a guy at that time. Who isn't? All my friends were either dating or had lots and lots of admirers. Not me. *sigh* Too tom boyish lah... She had a terrible one. The guy was somehow weird... Kinda cute but, I've no idea when they broke up. All she would tell me is that she didn't have a good first and regretted it.

Long long post. Paiseh lah... I was bored even though I'm supposed to be finishing my lesson plans... DUH!!

1 comment:

Unknown said...

I never dare to write about all these... kudos to you... the E part is funny, esp the way you mention her daddy... Lolz...

Hey, I never had a gf before also ma, scare what?